Nobody can put a price on ‘me time’ – whether you’ve had a stressful week at work or just want a moment to have a good think, we all need a little time out now and then. But when you’ve got a partner, this can be easier said than done, particularly if you’re in the honeymoon phase of a relationship.
On the flip side, if you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you might not be spending enough time with your partner. If you’re having trouble striking the balance, here are a few tips on how you can both make the most of your ‘me’ and ‘us’ time.
Set aside a weekly date night
Remember the early days when all you would do was go out for dinner or to the cinema with your significant other? As time wears on, financial constraints or just a general lack of effort can lead us to forgetting to treat our partners. If you need to re-ignite the spark in your relationship, agree a night to spend time together each week. It doesn’t have to be extravagant – you could just cook at home and watch your favorite box set together. The important point here is that you are doing it together.
By guest author Adrienne Erin
Despite countless fraudulent Internet ads that claim the contrary, there is no magic pill to make us skinny. Even though we sometimes hate to admit it, it’s clear that the only road to healthy living is a two lane highway: exercise and healthy eating.
Americans are famous for clocking hours at the gym to make up for their poor food choices. I tell myself a plate of French fries will be erased by a half an hour on the elliptical or an ice cream sundae will be forgotten thanks to Saturday morning yoga. Unfortunately, the old saying “abs are made in the kitchen” is true, and exercise alone won’t do the trick.
Also, with that mentality, we create a perpetual circle: I must go to the gym because I ate poorly, and now that I’ve been to the gym I can eat poorly because I’ve burned calories. Experts say that about 70 percent of weight loss is diet-based while 30 percent is exercise based. So establishing healthy eating is even more important (although maybe more difficult) than hitting the gym.
Posted on Balanced Lifestyle | September 8, 2014 | Comments Off
By guest author Traci Lawrence
How can we tell if our Lives are Out of Balance?
We can tell that our lives are not balanced through honest self-evaluation. We can ask ourselves how we’re spending our time. Do we work too much? Are we connected to electronics continually? How much quality time do we spend with our families? Are we devoting too much time to our hobbies? How often do we help other people with no thought of getting anything in return?
Jasmin Tanjeloff, LMHC writes, on tinybuddha.com, about two kinds of balance of which we need to be aware:
- Balance in our internal world (mind, heart, and health)
- Balance in our external world (work, social, family, and fun)
Ms. Tanjeloff states that, if we sense that we might be living with narrow, tunnel-like vision, we should take nine steps to self-examination. These steps include such practices as acknowledging that something is wrong, evaluating the problem, planning, reflection, and preparation.
By guest author Traci Lawrence
What is the difference between Appearance and Reality?
According to dictionary.com,
appearance [uh-peer-uh ns] – the state, condition, manner, or style in which a person or object appears; outward look or aspect.
reality [ree-al-i-tee] – the state or quality of being real; something that exists independently of ideas concerning it.
Reality is fact while appearance is perception. For example:
- The clown in the image to the right appears slender in the mirror, but he is overweight in reality.
- A small dog may appear to be cute and cuddly while the reality may be that it has a bad temper. (I remember when a small dog chased my young daughter down the block while he was barking and snarling.)
- An actor may appear to be as confident and tough as the character he is playing while the reality may be that he is shy, or reserved. (Clint Eastwood is a good example.)
- A generously-sized student may also appear to be confident and tough while the reality may be that he lacks confidence in the classroom. (The movie, The Blind Side, is a good example.)
Posted on Balanced Relationships | August 6, 2014 | Comments Off
By guest author Christina Moore
Of all the different problems we can have in the various areas of our lives, anything in the love department can really do a number on us emotionally. It is the rare person who doesn’t crave a healthy, loving relationship with someone with whom you can build a life together. Wanting this, and not having it can be distressing to say the least.
The failed relationships and bad dates fill us with despair, and we are convinced we will be alone forever. But, you can find that great relationship—it is not something reserved for a special few. You deserve it just as much as anyone else. But, to turn things around, you have to be willing to do a little self-reflection, and perhaps do things a bit differently than you have been.
Here are just a few helpful tips for finding that happy relationship:
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