By guest author Kimberley Laws What do your online connections mean to you? Are they simply a source of “likes” on your blog, endorsements on LinkedIn, and great material to share on Google+? Or do you perceive them to be something much more valuable—friends? Or do you perceive them to be something much more valuable—friends? [...]
There are many people who have successful careers, stable marriages, happy kids and who at the same time look good, find time for everything and are not stressed out.
I always admired them and wondered how on earth did they manage to do it? Many of us have much less responsibility and still feel tired, stressed and not always cope with the situation.
I got married two months ago. For a while, married bliss felt no different from our previous life for we had been living together for two years already prior. However, a recent conversation made me realize how marriage brings about a new balance between the couple, especially in terms of communication and financial management.
A week after moving 2000 miles across country to be with the supposed love of my life, he unceremoniously dumped me. I had no idea it was coming. I was devastated and there was no re-negotiation with him. Looking back, he did me a favor.
We weren’t suited even though back then I would have sworn black and blue to anyone willing to listen that he was my true love. But in reality our differences were too great and no matter how much love I would have thrown into him and the relationship he would never have been able to give me what I needed in return. It was too dysfunctional. So in that respect, even though it caused me enormous confusion and pain to work that out, I really should thank him for giving me my life back.
It turns out there are several steps to achieving balance after a divorce, and healing begins in different phases for those who have been through a divorce. For most looking to heal quickly and get back to a healthy place in their life, achieving balance can be simply one small step after another.