Nobody can put a price on ‘me time’ – whether you’ve had a stressful week at work or just want a moment to have a good think, we all need a little time out now and then. But when you’ve got a partner, this can be easier said than done, particularly if you’re in the honeymoon phase of a relationship.
On the flip side, if you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you might not be spending enough time with your partner. If you’re having trouble striking the balance, here are a few tips on how you can both make the most of your ‘me’ and ‘us’ time.
Set aside a weekly date night
Remember the early days when all you would do was go out for dinner or to the cinema with your significant other? As time wears on, financial constraints or just a general lack of effort can lead us to forgetting to treat our partners. If you need to re-ignite the spark in your relationship, agree a night to spend time together each week. It doesn’t have to be extravagant – you could just cook at home and watch your favorite box set together. The important point here is that you are doing it together.
Have your own activities
Spending time together as a couple is important, but it’s also imperative that you have your own activities too. See your own friends, take part in your own hobbies or even just do household chores by yourself – you’ll appreciate the opportunity to see your partner all the more after not seeing him or her for a while. Hobbies can be anything personal to you, whether you’re into watching sporting or playing bingo – just make sure it’s all in moderation and you’ll feel all the better for it.
Share time between mutual friends
One of the biggest makers or breakers of a relationship is a mutual friendship. Whether you’re invited to the pub, a wedding or anything else, some couples cannot help but fall into the trap of being referred to as ‘we’ rather than ‘I.’ While this is fine in moderation, it can lead to teasing that you’re joined at the hip, and moreover, you could run out of things to talk about if you’re always at the same events together. Designate time to spend with your mutual friends both together and separately, and you’ll soon find the perfect balance.
Just because you are in love and feel like you are real soul mates doesn’t mean that you can read each others mind. If you need some time alone then talk to your significant other and explain how you feel. You might find it surprising to discover that your second half was also looking for a “me” break but didn’t want to offend you by talking to you.
At the same time, if you feel that you are not spending enough time together then discuss it openly. Communication is the most important part of any relationship!