Here is a fascinating and perhaps counter-intuitive bit of wisdom…
If something comes into your life that you like – don’t pull.
And if something comes into your life that you don’t like – don’t push.
Below is a brief video with further explanation, but the main idea is to not try to reach out and bring closer the things that you like, because in doing so you will inevitably push them away.
And similarly, do not try to resist the things in your life that you don’t like, because inevitably they will persist.
What you resist, persists. So allow, observe, and move gently with the energy of life.
Get the lessons you need from the things you don’t like so they can move on and learn to enjoy the things you do like just the way they are, rather than trying to hold and grasp them forever.
Life works more like the tides of the ocean, you cannot force the tide to come toward you any more than you can tell it to go away.