3 Pillars of Life Balance. Do You Have Them in Your Life?

Posted in Balanced Lifestyle, Balanced Mind and Soul | April 10, 2010 |

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“In balance.”

This phrase runs through my mind almost every time I think about my life.

I really want you to feel the same feeling of inner calmness, peace, happiness and content when you look at your life. I also hope that a lot of you already have that feeling no matter how different your lives are from mine.

For a while now on week-ends I’ve been rambling about life balance and what it means to all of us. After we have discovered what life balance is for each of us and what core feelings and beliefs create a basis for this balance, I think it is time to lay the foundation of it.

No matter how you view life balance and what your core beliefs are, there are three pillars that can be beneficial to each and every one of us. I find that these pillars are essential parts of my life that help me be in balance. Take a look at them:

  1. Patience. Patience gives inner calm and lets you flow through the waves of life. No goal is too distant, no task is too complicated, and no journey is too long for a person who has mastered patience. Sometimes we just have to wait patiently in life to get where we want to be.If you look at life balance the way I do (inner feeling of harmony, peace and fulfillment in life) then patience will definitely take you there. Practice it every day and in every situation and you will notice that soon your life will finally flow in the direction you want to.Here is your guide to becoming a patient person.

    “The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it.”
    Arnold H. Glasgow

  2. Mindfulness (awareness.) When you are mindful you get used to looking inside of you and actually understanding what you see there. Have you ever had this feeling that you want something but you don’t know what? Have you ever asked yourself “What is my purpose in life? What am I doing here?” Have you ever wondered why some people seem to get everything effortlessly in life?I want to be bold enough to say that the answer to all these questions lies in mindfulness. Being mindful means understanding what your body tells you and when. It also means understating the origin of the emotions you are experiencing. When you learn to be mindful you can easily find your core beliefs and open your heart to spirituality, faith, kindness, generosity, love, and freedom.Take a deep breath in and slowly proceed to this guide for mindful living.

    “The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival.”

  3. Moderation. “Everything is good in moderation,” this is the motto that I use in life. Moderation protects us from obsessions, addictions, different –holisms and other extremes. Not everyone will enjoy the life of moderation but being in balance means being moderate in life.Whether you are conscious about your health, environmental impact or your work, moderation will give you the tools to find just the right balance. Being moderate is not about subduing any strong feeling or emotions in life, it is about making mindful choices that you will not regret. As one of my readers mentioned in her comment “Moderation is good in moderation.”Find ways to incorporate moderation into your life here.

    “Only actions give life strength; only moderation gives it charm.”
    Jean Paul Richter

These three virtues are just the foundation of life balance. They are the building stones that will keep the rest of the structure stable and intact no matter what. Once these pillars are in place you can start adding other virtues like kindness, generosity, positivity, gratitude, and others to create a wonderful palace of life where you want to live.

How do you relate to the virtues mentioned above? Do you have other pillars that keep your palace of life stable? Don’t forget to leave a comment and add to the discussion!

Keep it balanced!

Smart Thoughts (9)

  1. Baker says:

    I’m learning about moderation at this stage in my development. I have found that there is a direct correlation between the food I eat in moderation and my overall mindfullness and awareness during the day. Indeed it is all connected.

    • Anastasiya says:

      The connections between our body and mind are amazing. Little things like how much you eat and what you eat can make the biggest difference when you are trying to come up with some creative ideas or embark on a new journey in life.

      I am glad that you are discovering the values of moderation and that it helps you live a more mindful life.

  2. Lauren says:

    Hi Anastasiya,

    These are great insights for balance. I find that when I do yoga it helps me in all these areas.

    Regarding moderation, I loved a comment I heard a young lady make the last time I was at Esalen (a GREAT place in Big Sur that has a remarkable history). Someone asked her: “Are you a vegetarian”? She replied: “I’m a flexitarian”. I really smiled when I heard that and have reflected upon it often.

    Thanks for another great post on balance!

    • Anastasiya says:

      Yoga is great! It is so much more than just a type of exercise. I practice Yoga as often as I can now, however I pay more attention to Pilates now. Like Yoga it gives amazing body awareness that helps to concentrate both body and mind.

      The quote you have shared is precious! :-) I’ll definitely keep it in mind.

  3. Chris Akins says:


    Another winner. I truly enjoy your blog.


  4. I don’t have patience and moderation but I do have awareness. At least that, I guess:) Patience is something I am learning now by consciously choosing to know that everything comes at the right time. It might not be the exact time I hoped it to come at, but it will definitely be the Right Time for me. Not sure with my nature I can learn the moderation, I need extremes from time to time and that’s my definition of balance and happiness. I really liked the “Moderation is good in moderation” quote:)I do feel so calm and in harmony after each time I visit here Anastasiya. It is this special energy that comes from you and it feels great!

    • Anastasiya says:

      I truly believe that anyone can benefit from patience. Even if we are not patient in the beginning, making a conscious decision to learn patience is already a big step forward.

      Regarding moderation, I think that each of us has his/her definition of what moderation might mean. I also know a few people (including you, I guess :-)) who live happily the life of extremes. I think that when you choose the road of extremes you must be extremely careful too because you can get blown away from the original path. As long as you can keep your extremes under control and those extremes give you energy rather than drain you, you can definitely have a balanced and harmonious life.

  5. Dear Anastasiya,
    I too feel that inner balance is key in the realization of self, and in the motion of life and where it takes you.
    Interestingly these three pillars tie in with who I am generally, though latetly I must admit my moderation for the Internet hasn’t been at all that wise and I know that because I feel drained by the end of it.
    Good article, and it is wonderful to stop by! :)

  6. Sara Bogan says:

    Great article!