“Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony.”
Today’s technology, the pressures of work, the economy, and fear of the future are just a few of the things that can raise havoc on your mental, emotional, and spiritual life.
The cost of a harried lifestyle in our 24/7 society is loss of self-awareness. We do what everyone else is doing. We are distracted by celebrities. We over consume and fail to see underneath the surface our everyday lives because we fear what we may find.
If you want to get off the roller coaster of life are ready It’s up to you to become aware of where you are now, recognize your potential to change and create a life that brings you joy.
Read on for tips to create more balance by implementing empowering choices.
1. Take responsibility
No one is coming to rescue you. No one is coming to save you. Most of us, know exactly what we need to do to make our lives better. Make a commitment. Write down your plan for change.
2. Take a step in the right direction today
Today is the perfect day to begin. Apologize, attend an AA meeting, go for a 15 minute walk, or add vegetables to your diet.
Begin small, you’ll gather momentum and eventually have a different perspective, a new mindset, and a better life.
3. Prioritize at work and home
There is no need to consistently work over time when you focus on doing the most important tasks first. Learn to delegate. Teach your children to help with everyday chores. Learn how to work with coworkers and family members in an effective way.
4. Take a digital break
Begin your day with all technology turned off. Use the first hour for quiet time, prayer, meditation or stillness. Talk to family members face-to-face. Show interest in each other’s lives. Eat dinner together and end your day with more quiet time, minus digital distractions.
5. Create boundaries
When you have a ‘big’ yes, it’s easy to say no to the demands of others. Practice telling others, “No, that’s not going to work for me.” After you say it pause. Make a “not to do” list. This will leave space and time for your dreams.
6. Practice minimalism
Don’t buy into the next best thing. Create a budget. Eliminate stuff from your life. Stop recreational shopping. This will keep you from becoming a workaholic. It will also allow you to be debt free with less stress.
7. Have fun
When you do the work, you make space in your life for joy and happiness. The opposite of happy isn’t sad, it’s depression. Make each day an adventure. Never underestimate the power of creating good times for yourself.
Giving of yourself creates meaning in your life. My daughter spent two years in the program, Teach for America. My most meaningful giving experience was volunteering in Mississippi after hurricane Katrina. Life is richer when we give in both big and small ways.
9. Drop judgment
When you compare yourself to others, you discount who you are and what you do. You lose your joy. You don’t know what anything is for and you can’t see the big picture. Nobody can. Learn to live in the moment, change what you can and surrender the rest.
10. Create a bucket list and take action
List everything you want to do before you die. Then begin fulfilling your list. We are here to enjoy life. Begin now.
11. Live in the present
It’s easy to live in the pain of the past or the fear of the future. When this happens, stop, breathe, and ground yourself in the moment. Anxiety is nonexistent in this moment.
12. Live love
Learn to always come from a loving heart. Each morning have an intention of love. Think loving thoughts, speak loving words and take loving action. Mother Teresa said, “When we die the only thing we take with us is the love we gave away.”
13. Practice self-care for 30 days
It’s easy to believe the sky is falling when you are neglecting your personal needs. Learn to put yourself first. Nobody else will do it for you!
I’ve taught clients that all real change is slow. It takes time to recreate a life. Be gentle on yourself, breathe, relax and learn to go with the flow. There is no hurry. Life’s not a competition.
Tess Marshall is a speaker, author, fear shattering, calculated risk taker, obsessed with being happy, courageous and bold. Her blog, The Bold Life is a juicy mix of inspiration, spirituality, and personal development. Download for free her eBook, “Peace, Love, and Connection” at The Bold Life and follow her on Twitter and Facebook.
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