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How to Succeed with a Difficult Life Change

Posted in Balanced Mind and Soul, Book Reviews/Interviews | October 23, 2012 |

  

By guest author Eldon Taylor

Everyone I’ve ever met or interacted with, everyone I’ve ever listened to or whose work I’ve ever read—in fact, every single human being from my experience — has, at one time or another, desired to change something about themselves. For some, the longed-for change may involve getting a better job, losing weight, improving memory, accelerating learning abilities, or increasing charisma. Indeed, there are very few individuals who find nothing they wish to improve.

What Is Change?

What is change? The idea seems simple enough. To some, it’s a thing, often thought of as something like a commodity. For example, we desire more prosperity. The evidence of our success is money. So change in this instance is money, right? No, money is only the outer symbol that represents the shift.

Competing Strategies

Let’s say, for purposes of illustration, that our hypothetical individual who wishes to be more prosperous was also raised with the belief that money is the source of all evil. A subconscious strategy may therefore work to sabotage any effort he makes to achieve real monetary success. In other words, in this instance the ego perceives safety as avoiding evil— that is, money.

Our hypothetical person may believe, on the other hand, that only money matters. However, there could still be subconscious strategies that get in the way. For example, assume that this person seeks to build a large company but is afraid of public speaking. How will he build a large and successful organization without communicating? When will the fear (public speaking) strategy kick in and knock out the goal (large company) strategy? How will the two ideas compete?

Conflicting strategies exist in nearly everyone. They often underpin what psychologists call “cognitive dissonance,” the conflict that arises from holding two incongruent beliefs. Indeed, opposing strategies also lie beneath much of what’s called “sublimation,” or the acting out of unacceptable fantasies in a socially acceptable way.

The Subconscious Mind

The other challenge to creating real change in our lives lies in the subconscious mind. This part of us is basically indiscriminate in how it accepts information. The problem then is twofold: first, there are already years of uncritical acceptance in my mind; and second, I act in reliance upon this information.

All the statements that have ever been accepted are present in our subconscious minds, and for most of us that’s negative programming. Some psychotherapists have used numbers that indicate that for every input of positive messaging there are 100 bits of negative!

How many times have we all said to ourselves things such as, I can’t do it, or It never works for me? How many times has each of us heard statements such as, “You’re not old enough,” “You’re stupid,” “Money is the source of all evil,” “Life is difficult and then you die,” “Thank God it’s Friday,” “That will never work,” and “You’ll never amount to anything”?

Our Defense Mechanisms Often Defeat Our Purposes

The fact that we act in reliance upon the information accepted indiscriminately by our subconscious minds is a pervasive problem. This means that if negative messages have caused us pain or fear, then we adapt our behavior and beliefs around avoiding those circumstances and outcomes.

With this adaptation come choices. Most choices of this nature are deeply rooted in the subconscious. Our subliminal beliefs—those in the subconscious that arise from our desire to be accepted and to avoid pain, humiliation, and rejection—determine our actions. All behavior comes from choice, even if the decision is made at a subconscious level. What happens is that we build defense mechanisms in order to protect ourselves from former bad experiences and possible future rejection.

These defense mechanisms often defeat our own best interests. For many of us, our worst enemy is often ourselves. Ignorant of these dynamics, it’s easy to see why more than 90 percent of the people who attend or participate in motivational gatherings or products are unsuccessful. The fact is that every time we tell ourselves something such as, I am good! the subconscious gives a thought to the conscious such as, Really! Good at what?

Even when the behavior we desire is something as simple as success in our workplace, these subliminal beliefs come into play. For example, when I ask a group of people how many of them would like to come up front and speak to the audience for five minutes on some topic I’ll assign them, rarely does anyone volunteer. A common fear is that somehow they’ll suffer deep embarrassment, humiliation, and more. But this same group of people will respond almost unanimously to the simple, straightforward question: Do you want to be successful in business? Their answer is always yes!

To succeed in business, one must learn to speak. If there’s a deep abiding fear of public speaking and a desire to be successful, there are contradictory motives present in the psyche. Thus, when a person reaches a certain level of success, for some inexplicable reason everything crumbles. What may be viewed as outside circumstances is, in truth, inner conflict. In the instance of the fear of public speaking, the closer to success the individual gets, the more powerful the exertion by subconscious processes to eliminate the impending threat. Conflicting factors or mechanics of our own psyche often defeat our stated desires without our conscious awareness.

Hypnosis and Subliminal Communication

The power of hypnosis and subliminal communication exists largely in their direct communication with the subconscious. The conscious mind is generally in abeyance during hypnosis, although our defense mechanisms can still play a significant role in the outcome. The advantage of sub-threshold (subliminal) communication is that it bypasses conscious awareness. Unlike hypnosis, where attention and conscious assistance are often necessary, subliminal messages aren’t attended to by the conscious mind in any necessary manner. Because of this, we can decide for ourselves how to “script” our subconscious mind with this technology.

You Can Rescript Your Inner Talk

Using hypnosis, then, it’s possible to access the hidden recesses of the mind to discover the source of a conflict and its solutions. Hypnosis also allows us to “seed” the subconscious mind with thought patterns and ideas that can serve us as opposed to sabotage us. But for me, the most exciting use of hypnosis is for deepening meditation exercises and using this to access information from my higher self.

As for subliminal communication, it works by allowing the positive messages or affirmations to eventually overtake the negative information contained in the subconscious. This new data rescripts our inner-talk, thereby priming positive self-beliefs, which begin the cycle of self-fulfilling prophecies. When this happens, the subliminal beliefs that formerly were self-limiting begin to change. As they change, so do we!

You can learn the 5 steps for putting yourself into a hypnotic state to empower your goals, create new habits, uncover hidden conflicts that often cause self-destructive patterns and discover new solutions to old problems! In his new book, Self-Hypnosis and Subliminal Technology: A How-to Guide for Personal – Empowerment Tools You Can Use Anywhere, Eldon Taylor shows takes you on a practical journey towards learning self-hypnosis and creating your own subliminal program.

Once you have been through this course, you will know:

  • The 5 different steps for putting yourself into a hypnotic state;
  • Several visualization, induction and deepening techniques, including deepening to eliminate distraction;
  • All about post-hypnotic cues, affirmations, self-suggestions, how to uncover information and find the positive in negative experiences;
  • How hypnosis can be used to create new habits, uncover hidden conflicts that often cause self-destructive patterns and discover new solutions to old problems; and
  • Even how to use hypnosis for expanding conscious awareness, out of body awareness, regression-therapy, and automatic-writing/drawing!

You will also know:

  • How subliminal communication works;
  • Why it is so much more powerful than simply using affirmations;
  • How to write effective affirmations for subliminal delivery;
  • The importance of choosing the right soundtrack; and
  • How you can create your own custom subliminal program, for whatever goal you seek to achieve!


Win a signed copy of the book

You can win a signed copy of Self-Hypnosis and Subliminal Technology: A How-to Guide for Personal – Empowerment Tools You Can Use Anywhere (please note that the book can be shipped only within the US)

  1. Leave a comment below saying what life change you’ve been struggling with.
  2. Share this post on Facebook, Twitter or simply email it to a friend.

The winner will be announced on November 6th.

Keep it balanced!

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Smart Thoughts (13)

  1. Tamara says:

    A balanced relashanship

  2. Mark says:

    Leaving an all encompassing religious belief.

  3. Pam says:

    I struggle with weight loss and exercise motivation. I would love to win this book to learn more to support my efforts. Thank you for sponsoring the giveaway!

  4. Rayce Jacobson says:

    the big reason is shyness, aka “social anxiety”. i know once it’s no longer an issue then i’ll b a jovial, charismatic person; the life of the party.

  5. Brandi says:

    Im struggling with identifying my worth. I was abused most of my childhood life–emtionally as well as physically. Which I believe has caused me to believe sub consciously I’m not worthy of sucess or love. I know I self sabotage and I know in order to succeed I have to change my own scheme but I dont know how.

  6. Shannon says:

    Anxiety,shyness,and lack of self worth. I was abused and learned not to speak or draw attention to myself. It is very hard for me to speak to other people.I often get teary eyed and my voice breaks. I start shaking. It is very hard for me to go out in public I have panic attacks. i want to learn that I have some value and no one is out to hurt me.

  7. James pope says:

    sounds interesting book

  8. William says:

    joblessness and education

  9. nadine says:

    struggling with a chronic neurological disease

  10. Kymberly says:

    There seems to be a number of survivors here! I’m also one – 14 years of childhood abuse, before I managed to get myself out of my toxic family. Because of this baggage, I constantly struggle to find balance, and the prospect of change is deeply connected to fear, instilled in me when I was a young child.

    I currently struggle with weight loss, motivation, pain management and self worth, even though I usually keep this hidden behind a mask. Writing and teaching have encouraged me to slowly improve on many fronts, but they also sap my energy and increase pain levels. Expending limited energy on improving my health, in addition to working – this is the hardest aspect for me – I have a habit of putting work first, and this must change.

    It sounds like this book and hypnosis may be an extra tool to help kick-start this much needed change. Thanks for this opportunity!

    • Shannon says:

      I am glad you found writing! I’m struggling to find something creative to do,to take me out of my head,ya know. It is so difficult to get past not just the abuse,but,all the stuff associated with it.It seems for every step forward,I take five steps back. Writing seems to be such a gift to many people,I’m happy that you have found it,and found a light as it were.

  11. Shannon says:

    I am struggling with a career change and a newly diagnosed illness.

  12. My Mom, who was my favorite person in the world, passed away several months ago. I live with her and cared for her until she died. I am not only mourning her loss, but must pay all bills as we split them before. I miss my old self and could use this book to rebalance my life. Thank you, Theresa Snyder