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8 Teachers for Juggling Life

Posted in Balanced Lifestyle, Balanced Mind and Soul | September 25, 2012 |

  

By guest author Staci Boden

In theory, I imagine a balanced life to feel like white lotus pedals effortlessly flowing across a bed of warm water. In reality, balancing my life has been more like basic training in master juggling. With two teenagers, a husband, a dog, a healing practice and now a book, the only thing effortlessly flowing is the grey hair across my face.

And I’m grateful for every moment. Because stretching to care for who and what I love is how I develop balance. Conversely, the more balance I develop, the better I get at stretching to care for who and what I love. In this way, developing balance is a daily practice. Stretching is not always comfortable but it’s an opportunity to learn how to relax into the edges of my limitations so I can grow.

Balance is a relationship

Do you approach life with a scrunched-up-stressed-out attitude? Or do you remember your sense of humor while you’re chauffeuring your kids back and forth (and back and forth) between sports’ practices, social visits and school activities? Balance begins as a relationship you cultivate within yourself.

At the same time, balance is also something you express in the world. Notice the difference between cursing at slow cars as you chauffer your children versus singing along with your kids’ favorite music (even though it’s horrible). I don’t want you to feel bad if you tend to curse. We’ve all had those moments, believe me. The point isn’t to beat yourself up for being human, but instead, to learn to find balance through all parts of life.

A different way to hold healing

My role as a healing practitioner is to support people in learning how to navigate life. And while I want only the best for my clients, I’ve found that we can’t always control our reality. Life can throw curveballs, and actually, relying on control ends up limiting potential. I want my clients to feel strong, capable and balanced in the face of any life circumstance.

After years of traveling alongside clients as they explore daily unknowns like birth, divorce, anxiety, health, new love, and new dreams, universal themes have coalesced into eight teachers. Growing a relationship with these eight teachers can help you develop balance within daily life.

8 Teachers for Balance

  1. Fear: Trying to avoid fear by sweeping it under the carpet creates an additional stumbling block. Instead, invite fear out of the shadows for tea and conversation. As you learn to listen, instead of reacting you can begin responding to your fears with compassionate suggestions. Fear then simmers down to create more peace inside.
  2. Awareness: Identifying fear leads to cultivating awareness. Shining a light of awareness within yourself naturally reflects onto daily life relationships, decisions, and projects. As you shift between noticing inner and outer worlds, you learn how to hold and balance more in life.
  3. Choice: Developing awareness may reveal choice points about limiting beliefs, habits and relationships. As new choices impact your internal and external worlds, rebalancing your life can feel like an uncomfortable stretch. But if you can stay with it, relaxing into the stretch also ignites potential.
  4. Body: Often, our bodies talk through issues surrounding health, sexuality, fertility, nutrition, body image and more. As the literal place of life and death, body is a doorway for ultimate transformation. A talking body teaches us to discover new balance in all ways from changing how we eat, exercise, feel and live.
  5. Intuition: Accessing intuition involves learning how to sort through internal and external static to develop trust. In this way, intuition can become an internal compass for making decisions amidst life’s unknowns. Following intuition can help you practice balance and express wisdom in your daily life.
  6. Energy: There’s a way to follow the energy of something instead of getting in front of it. You can follow a relationship, decision, project, hope or an intention. Often it takes realizing you’ve jumped ahead, usually because of a fear, to pull yourself back. Following, catching yourself, pulling back and starting over is practicing balance.
  7. Intention: Following an intention is like having a conversation with your soul about what really matters to you. For example, you may focus on developing a quality like strength or something tangible like motherhood. The question becomes, how will you fuel your intention by taking action? Holding a heartfelt intention in the present moment without any future guarantee turns developing balance into an art form.
  8. Surrender: The heart of surrender involves letting go of something–a relationship, belief, job, or dream–as well as the hopes and expectations it carried. But practicing surrender also means moving aside to allow something bigger to guide you. The dance between letting go and allowing means embodying balance in a whole new way.

Your own sense of balance

Ultimately, while these eight teachers offer foundational support, there isn’t one right way to develop balance. It’s up to you to discover your own sense of balance within and throughout your life. In the meantime, what you can count on is that actively juggling work, family, finances, health and relationships will help you practice holding it all.

Win a Free Book

Do you want to know how to turn your life around and start thriving no matter what? You can win a free copy of Staci Boden’s new book Turning Dead Ends into Doorways: How to Grow Through Whatever Life Throws Your Way by

  1. leaving a comment below and telling what areas of your life need the most juggling right now and
  2. sharing this article with your friends on facebook or twitter.

Please note: you must live in the US to win the copy of the book.

Let us help you bring more balance into your life!

Staci Boden is a San Francisco-based author, healing practitioner, and energy worker. Her book, Turning Dead Ends into Doorways: How to Grow Through Whatever Life Throws Your Way (Conari Press, 2012), introduces eight teachers for navigating daily life unknowns: fear, awareness, choice, body, intuition, energy, intention and surrender. Through her company, Dancing-Tree Consulting, Staci sees private clients as well as leads personal and spiritual development workshops. To learn more, visit Staci’s website, meet on facebook or connect via twitter.



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Smart Thoughts (19)

  1. James says:

    sounds like interesting book.

  2. Linda says:

    I really struggle with work and home life balance. Thanks for your tips Staci. I’ll definitely use them.

    • Staci Boden says:

      Thanks, Linda. It’s not easy being everything to everyone. For many years as a mother with two young kids, I had to schedule my personal time or it just wouldn’t happen. I wish you all the best

  3. Valerie Thorp says:

    I struggle most with taking time for myself and giving of myself to others: kids, husband, home life, work. I am always last on the list. Thanks for the tip!

    • Staci Boden says:

      Hi Valerie, my husband always says a happy wife is a happy life, a smart man. I realize we all want to be there for our kids and families. Allowing yourself a moment to refuel will benefit everyone. Good luck.

  4. Mari says:

    Balance between kids and work= no me time.

    • Staci Boden says:

      Mari, I hear you, totally. And no me time = burned out mama = no good for anyone. I hold a monthly women’s group where many mama’s come to refuel. If you don’t schedule the time, it won’t happen, nudge, nudge:).

  5. Lisa says:

    I am struggling with the body and the energy areas of my life more than anything else right now. I enjoyed this post and look forward to learning more through your book. Thanks so much, Staci, for sharing with us.

    Lisa

    • Staci Boden says:

      Thanks, Lisa, for leaving a comment. Body is a huge teacher, and not always gentle. I’ve found that working with an intention really makes a difference in our lives. What do you most need at this moment? Wishing you the best.

  6. Barbara says:

    I am at the end of a long illness, and balancing my low energy and need for self care with my responsibilities to my family is a daily struggle. I feel like there is enough of me to take care of myself, or my family, but not both.

    • Staci Boden says:

      Dear Barbara, my heart is with you as I’ve juggled the needs of caring for a sick teenager while doing my best to nourish myself. As a mother, it’s natural for us to want to show up for our kids, it must be so frustrating. Sometimes life demands that we hold challenging points that make us feel torn, like there’s no good solution. It’s really uncomfortable. When I hit those places I remind myself I’m one human being doing the best I can. One step at a time. I wish you compassion because being hard on yourself only adds to your burdens. If your best friend was living with your challenges, how would you treat her? Blessings to you.

  7. Denise Espinosa says:

    Your book outlines where I am in life. Searching to buy a new home and about to enter motherhood in a month!
    I’m a walking magnet for unsolicited motherhood/pregnancy advice, people just start telling you things about their kids and/or labor/ delivery…actually, I don’t mind. I quite like it. I realize, I NOW have things in common with people I never did before and there’s much to talk about in regards to children. i.e. today a lady goes “once you have your kid, you won’t be able to imagine what your life was like before it”… what IS my life like before I have this child? I guess whatever my life already IS, will just be enhanced by one more fantastic element. Random strangers passing by give you “the look” the all knowing-you’re about to enter the craziest ride of your life-but it’s a blessing-I know what you’re going through LOOK. I just smile back and they see the questions in my head. I feel like I’ve entered another dimension of life.

    • Staci Boden says:

      Hi Denise! I’m glad you’re receiving people’s unsolicited advice (or dare I say, projections?!) so well. A mom once told me that the time before becoming a mother felt like a past life. And you’re moving too? Wow, that’s a lot. In addition to being a mom, I’m also a former birth doula, and I wish you all the best. In fact, birth made several surprise entrances into my book, and I’m grateful because it’s a powerful force that can usher us through transition into transformation. I’ll be holding a good thought for you!

  8. Jenny Witt says:

    I have Severe depression/anxiety. I’m now on 1000 mg anti-depressents/anxiety pills. My son died 2001. He was buried the day b4 sept 11th atacks. My anxiety getting worse. What do I do to try and not b scared of dying, of the people I love dying. Scared 2 live. The verge of always being on tears.

    • Staci Boden says:

      Hi Jenny, clearly, you’ve experienced unimaginable loss and my heart goes out to you. I’ve spent years working with people with anxiety and it’s incredibly debilitating requiring serious support. If you’d like to email me privately at staci at dancing-tree.com, I’d be happy to connect with you more directly. I’m sending some gentleness your way.

  9. Sarah says:

    This article is a very refreshing read. Very insightful and hopefully, it will work for me. Thanks for posting this!

  10. Katie says:

    Balance has been the hardest lesson for me to learn in life. Great post! XX

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