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100 Ways to Live a More Balanced Life Today

Posted in Balanced Lifestyle, Balanced Mind and Soul | November 28, 2011 |

  

By Anastasiya Goers

How do you balance your life? Where do you start?

The most difficult step of any task or project is the first one. You look at the big picture and maybe you even know what you want to get in the end but you have no idea where to start.

It is especially true for life balance. I’ve been there. If you are feeling exhausted after work, you can’t stick to a healthy lifestyle and you constantly feel guilty because you don’t spend enough time with your loved ones, what is the first step towards that balance? All changes seem overwhelming and you just can’t take on anything else because you simply don’t have time or energy for it.

When I first started simplifying and balancing my life I wished I had a little step-by-step guide to life balance. Today (about 5 years later) I feel that my life is in balance and I have decided to create a step-by-step life balance guide for YOU. I have put together the most useful and practical tips that you can do TODAY to get one step closer to your inner harmony and peace.

(BTW, keep reading to see how you can download my new FREE ebook and win a copy of the Reclaim Your Life in 15 Days ecourse.)

  1. Listen and be aware.
    You have conversations all day long, but how often do you really hear what’s being said? Most of the time your mind is wandering – to a work project, plans for dinner, for example – or you are crafting your next response. But the key to having a productive talk as well as a balanced relationship is speaking less and listening more.

    Today when you are talking to your family members or friends see how long you can go without letting your thoughts roam. You’ll have a better idea of what this person is saying and how you can use this information to keep your relationship more balanced. Besides, by listening attentively you’ll show your loved ones that you appreciate them and will make them more eager to hear what you are saying.

  2. Laugh and smile together.
    According to a recent research published by CNN people who smile a lot have lower rates of divorce. If you are married or if you are in a serious relationship then smiling and having fun together is a bullet-proof method to keep your fire burning. Researchers are not quite sure about the connection between smiling and happy marriages but having great time together and laughing a lot will help you become more positive about your relationship and life in general.

    Today watch a comedy together and try to smile at your partner and your family members more than usual. I can guarantee that you will have a more positive and balanced day.

  3. Question yourself.
    How often do we find something sitting on a shelf or get ready to throw something in the trash that only 6 months ago we just had to have?

    Today before you buy anything at all in your life, ask yourself one very important question: “Where will this item or thing be one year from now?” If you are not 100% sure that you will be using the item or if the probability is high that it will be in a yard sale or in the trash a year from now then do not buy it. You will be amazed at how much money you will save by asking yourself this one simple question.

  4. Make this Christmas the one to remember. Really?
    How many times have we heard that from commercials and advertisements that we see during the Christmas season? The idea is that we should all go out and spend a ton on money trying to make this particular day of the year a “one to remember”. Now ask yourself, what did you get for Christmas 3 years ago? How about 2 years or ago or even last year? Chances are that you might remember a few things from last year but beyond that is very difficult.

    Today keep Christmas gifts (as well as other gifts) simple and don’t spend a ton of money trying to please others. If someone is not happy that you didn’t take out a second mortgage on your home to give them the gift of their dream for Christmas then they are probably not the type of individual that you need to be around to begin with.

  5. Try “reverse” time management.
    Every day you probably focus on accomplishing certain tasks that you planned. At the beginning of the day you look or think about everything that has to be done and your brain almost freezes in silent panic. All day long you try to catch up on everything but something constantly interrupts you, you lose your focus and at the end of the day your list of tasks looks only longer.

    Today focus on how much time you can spend working. Plan 1-2 hour work blocks when you are 100% focused and nothing can get in your way. Work as a mad man or woman during those blocks but then let yourself rest. At the end of the day focus on how many productive work blocks you have had instead of how many tasks you have marked off your to do list.

    This little change in your thoughts will help you avoid procrastination, prevent “brain freeze” and let you have some time for the unexpected things that will come up during the day.

  6. Protect your “non-work” time.
    Your free time is an asset that you should protect at all costs. When we think about work we usually have certain hours that we have to spend working. We do not even think about other activities at that time.
    For some reason when it comes to free time we forget how important it is. Yes, it won’t bring you any extra income and won’t get you a promotion at work but it will make you a happy and balanced person.

    Today turn off your cell phone after work. If you work from home then it is vitally important to have a designated office area that you should not enter during your “off” hours. When talking to your family members and friends spend a little bit of time sharing your work issues and then refocus to a more pleasurable topic.
    I’ll probably sound like an elementary school teacher, but still remember “All work and no play makes Johnny a dull (and unhappy!) boy.”

  7. Nurture emotionally intimate relationships.
    Keeping up with a thousand friends on Facebook won’t make you any happier (if anything, it can make you only more depressed.) Create deep relationships with a few friends, family members or your spouse to increase your happiness level. We all need a few confidants who hear us on a deeper level, allow us to share experiences and become involved in our lives.

    Today (and every day) spend some time with a close person. Talk to your partner and spend time with him/her. Call your friend or a close family member. Plan monthly events with your close friends.

  8. Express your gratitude.
    Does it feel good to hear somebody thank you for something? Be the person who always thanks for the favors that you get and help. Also be the one who appreciates his/her friends instead of taking them for granted.

    Today find a way to tell your friends why you value them so much.

  9. Accomplish something that has value to you.
    True happiness stems from achieving something meaningful to you. It can be anything like painting, raising kids, helping others, growing a house, writing a blog or organizing your house. It doesn’t matter how spectacular or how famous it makes you – what you do just has to be intrinsically motivated. Ignoring what matters to you sets you up for unhappiness now and regret later in life.

    Today figure out what is meaningful to you in life and devote at least 15 minutes to your meaningful activity. Make sure that you do your meaningful work every day no matter how busy or tired you are.

  10. Let yourself relax.
    Being in the “always-ready” condition is very stressful. Let somebody else take care of the kids, order a take-out (not more than twice a month, though), take a day off at work (if possible) and let yourself completely relax. It’s as important to let yourself relax all the way as it is to be insanely productive.

    Today add some R&R into your day. It’s best to have one day of total rest (no errands, no tasks) but even 15-30 minutes of quietude and serenity daily are a welcome change for the better.

“Okay, I see only 10 tips, where is the other 90?” you are asking me right now.

Posting them in one article would be overwhelming (to say the least.) You can download the 100 Ways to Live a More Balanced Life Today for FREE here. (if you are subscribed to my newsletter then I have already send you the download link for this FREE ebook.)

I would love to know how you keep (or would like to keep) your life balanced. Please share your thoughts in the comments.

You can win a free copy of my ecourse Reclaim Your Life in 15 days by posting your comment below. On Dec 5th I will pick the winner with the best comment.

The winner of the free Reclaim Your Life ecourse is Jody Stage (comment #6.)
I want to thank everyone who took part in this discussion and shared their ways of staying balanced and happy. I appreciate your involvement and your voice.

Keep it balanced!

 

Smart Thoughts (19)

  1. Paige Burkes says:

    My most effective tool in feeling balanced is mindfulness – noticing how I feel at various points throughout my day without judgment and adjusting toward happiness from there. Avoiding multi-tasking and being in the moment makes this easier (and I totally enjoy every moment with my children and husband when I focus only on them).

    If I’m feeling stressed or overwhelmed, I stop and ask why and what I can do to change it. And I do those things to calm me down (like taking a deep breath and acknowleging that I’m doing my best at the moment).

    Being mindful allows me to check in with myself and make a conscious choice about what I can do to be happier. Having your list of 100 tips gives me a great resource to draw from in making that choice, in the moment.

  2. qheikh786 says:

    Thanks for providing free e-gift regarding balancing our daily life . I love and appreciate your step by step approach , Anastasiya. But do not you think it is a big list ? I am balancing my life on daily basis on adopting and blending three importants ingredients :
    1) Religious aspects to check the right intentions and values of life.
    2) Scientific view to comprehend and understand the thing in logical and practical way .
    3) Progress and achievement made in life .

    so Balance in life = Religious view + scientific view + progressive view

    This will give you meaningful purpose in life , satisfaction in life and happiness in life, all three on a daily basis .

    sheikh

  3. Hi Anastasiya!

    Love this! Just found your site and am enjoying looking around.

    We all need balance in life, otherwise we get misshapen spiritually, socially, emotionally or otherwise. I love how specific your ideas are too. #10 is the one I need to work on the most, I think. I’m always working on something. Usually, I actually really like it this way. But today I’m sick with no voice as my body yells at me to slow down and relax.

    This is the second post I’ve read today with that theme — and second time I’ve shared I’m sick! Perhaps I should listen this time! :)

    So glad I found your blog!

  4. Lana says:

    When I saw “smile and laugh,” I thought of the saying “Fake it until you make it.” Sometimes when I feel out of balance, if I act as if I am in balance, I will succeed in getting things back the way I want them to be. It’s so very simple that I usually forget that, though. Thanks for the reminder! :)

  5. Kimberley says:

    I have not had a chance to read the 100 ways yet but am really looking forward to it. I’m printing it now. I would really like the RECLAIM offer because I have teenagers that seem to have TAKEN OVER!! :-)

  6. Jody Stage says:

    My goal for 2012 is to get better balance in my life – especially between work and responsibilites and fun. My tendancy is to do everything everyone else needs first and then if there is time have fun and take care of myself. Definitely need to rebalance and put more time and energy into myself. I have MS and although I am lucky to have no active symptoms I know if I don’t take better care of myself this could change at any time. Am looking forward to reading your free e-book on 100 ways to balance my life and using that as a tool and a motivator to get moving in a more positive direction!

  7. Vatsala says:

    Hi Anastasiya

    Firstly, let me congratulate you on your new ebook! i just finished reading it and am looking at ways to improve my balancing (rather than juggling) act.

    As a lady who wears different hats at different times of the day (which I am sure most if not all ladies do, I try to keep my balance and my method, which does work well is based on self acceptance and reminding myself that my best IS good enough.

    When faced with a bouncer during the day which has the potential to upset my plans, I simply step aside and ask myself if I have any control over the situation. If the control is present then I act accordingly and if the control is not, then I work my way around it to ensure that I get my task done without upsetting anyone else.

    It is a peaceful way to do what I have to do. At the end of the day, during my meditation or prayers I give thanks that the day went well. It seems to work for me!

  8. Vicki Casal says:

    When things get overwhelming I try to remember something an old boss used to say . . .

    How do you eat an elephant?

    One bite at a time.

    I wouldn’t actually want to eat an elephant, but it is a great reminder that you can really only do one thing at a time. And if you focus on getting one of those things done, it is easier to then move on to the next.

  9. bryan says:

    I try to keep a balance between work and family by not bringing my work home. I feel that work should be kept in the office as much as possible, so you wouldn’t be distracted from spending quality time with your loved ones or even just unwinding yourself after a long day. Eventually, I began to feel that my home was like a sanctuary of comfort. Leisure became more pleasurable as well. Also, I try to clear my mind up by going for runs in the late evenings sometimes. It gives me better sleep at the end of the day, which is always a satisfying thing! =)

  10. kathleen says:

    Thank you for the “100 Ways to Live a Balanced life”. It will be very useful. Here are some of my ways to try to get back to balance, often a bit off-balance such at unusual times (I try not to say bad times, rather different or unusual)
    *I try to see another side of the situation – The driver that cut me off in traffic might be on his way to the hospital.
    *Worrying is like praying for something you don’t want” – I heard this from one of the “Wailin Jennies” in a concert and I try to think of it when I get anxious.
    *”When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer wrote this, and I try to think of this when I am not able to see the other side of a situation.
    *And as others have written, I try to stay in the moment. This is often very difficult.
    ‘nuf said, Cheers to everyone.

  11. Helen says:

    When stressed I try to breath and think how lucky I am, how wonderful are people around me, how beautiful is world around. But the most balancing thought in hard times is always – it will pass and new day will come.

    Balancing work and social / private life is a bit hard so I’m trying to learn it from other people, read books and blogs, listen to myself.

  12. sebastien says:

    Thanks for sharing freely all this with us Anastasiya,

    It’s nice to have people (non famous spiritual leaders with many written books ;- ) just sharing truly their own life’s experience, just the way they are, in simple words that most can relate to. And show the path to the ones still in fear of taking some baby steps of just facing their issues, the truth, to change for the better.

    Namaste

    Seb

  13. sebastien says:

    To keep balanced…

    well, as being aware already, it’s just meditation, managing to detach from everything around for a while, being in tune with the source energy, the light, the universe, the infinity.

    Often a good walk in nature, away from human civilization noises; helps a lot…In the forest, listening to the trees, the wind in the leaves,the birds; the mountains, their majesty, a creek and the flow of water; the ocean and the waves coming to shore…We belong to nature.

    namaste

    Seb

  14. Lynn says:

    I feel like I am swimming upstream all the time. I cannot keep track of work, home, 4 boys at 4 different schools and 4 different sports, grandchildren, and outside activities.

  15. Claudia says:

    Just two days ago I kept my life “balanced” with the “test and fail method”. But then I got so afraid of my mistakes that I stopped acting upon my life by saying the laziest phrase: the universe will take and the destiny shall give the chance… by doing nothing at all but waiting.
    And two days ago I realize about how I was driving my life and now if I may say I’ve been such a coward because I want everything to be perfect and to keep that I must not fail so I didn’t take action.
    Now how I found balance in this two days? By being aware with all my senses and mostly by making what seems harder to achieve my teacher and challenge. Let’s say, it’s super easy to feel angry, hate and jealous, super easy then what’s the point of having an easy existence by not living the extraordinary like love, joy and peace? Anyways… I am learning and I love it. I’ve also learn to say “thank you” and when is appropriate to offer “my apologies”.
    So… I must say that my way keep myself balance is by constant learning and awareness of what I am responsible to create.
    Amazing the tips I’ve seen in the “100 Ways to Live a More Balanced Life Today”, I love it because it’s not just a guide but a chance to start acting. Thanks!!
    Hugs!!

  16. Solai Luke says:

    This can be a really interesting submit! Many thanks for the idea! Along with sincerely Luke aka couchgool.

  17. Shirls says:

    Anastasiya, thanks so much for the e-book – I really appreciate all the love and effort you have put into it. I like the ideas I’ve read so far – time to put them into practice.

  18. Lindsay says:

    Thank you so much for the 100 ideas!
    How I keep my balance right now: being creative, lots of writing, lots of meditation. But I wish to have the discipline to do some yoga practice a couple of times a week too and show compassion to others and myself always, unconditional, even when it is difficult.

    Have a nice weekend!
    Lindsay

  19. Maggie Krivoshia says:

    Found your site today and am so glad I did! My life has been in a constant state of chaos for quite some time now due to family life situations. My most daily challenge is helping care for my 4 year old twin grandchildren who live with us along with their father, my son, a single father to the twins. I’ve been helping to raise the twins since they were a year old. We’re family helping family… always. Having said that, I feel my strength as the “rock” in the family slowly depleting from everyone’s expectations of me to “always be there”. We have 4 sons, his and mine, wives, girl friends and a total of 9 grandchildren. There always seems to be something going on that requires my assistance in some way. The time has come for me to seriously reflect on what’s important for me before I lose myself completely. I certainly need to reclaim my life! Simplify and Balance!