Comments on: Step out of Your Shell: Practical Tips to Become a Better Conversationalist http://balanceinme.com/balanced-lifestyle/step-out-of-your-shell-practical-tips-to-become-a-better-conversationalist/ Simple balance for busy people Sat, 31 Jul 2010 01:47:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Anastasiya http://balanceinme.com/balanced-lifestyle/step-out-of-your-shell-practical-tips-to-become-a-better-conversationalist/comment-page-1/#comment-458 Anastasiya Thu, 17 Sep 2009 15:13:23 +0000 http://www.balanceinme.com/blog/?p=547#comment-458 @Patrick I really like your advice Patrick. Asking non-standard questions is a great way to start talking to people and to make them interested in you. I know that sometimes it's difficult to identify passions of another person but if you know the right questions to ask then everything gets much easier. Maybe you could write more about the right questions? @David I realize that for some people online communication becomes an addiction. However, online world is a two-edged sword: it can help some of us and it can be destructive for others. I think that online communication is something that we should use to complement not substitute for the real life communication. All of us need to use luxuries of our modern life wisely and with moderation. This is true not only for the Internet but also for other essential parts of our modern life like cars (some people already forgot what walking is), cell phones, fast food and many others. @Steven Being an introvert is often associated with being shy and not being able to communicate with the outside world though it's not a rule. An introvert can be or not be a shy person, however every shy person is definitely an introvert. I have aimed this article at shy introverts who have trouble communicating with the outside world (that's the way I was before) and I wanted to help these people with the tips that worked for me. @Patrick
I really like your advice Patrick. Asking non-standard questions is a great way to start talking to people and to make them interested in you. I know that sometimes it’s difficult to identify passions of another person but if you know the right questions to ask then everything gets much easier. Maybe you could write more about the right questions?
@David
I realize that for some people online communication becomes an addiction. However, online world is a two-edged sword: it can help some of us and it can be destructive for others. I think that online communication is something that we should use to complement not substitute for the real life communication. All of us need to use luxuries of our modern life wisely and with moderation. This is true not only for the Internet but also for other essential parts of our modern life like cars (some people already forgot what walking is), cell phones, fast food and many others.
@Steven
Being an introvert is often associated with being shy and not being able to communicate with the outside world though it’s not a rule. An introvert can be or not be a shy person, however every shy person is definitely an introvert. I have aimed this article at shy introverts who have trouble communicating with the outside world (that’s the way I was before) and I wanted to help these people with the tips that worked for me.

]]> By: Kye http://balanceinme.com/balanced-lifestyle/step-out-of-your-shell-practical-tips-to-become-a-better-conversationalist/comment-page-1/#comment-457 Kye Thu, 17 Sep 2009 15:13:16 +0000 http://www.balanceinme.com/blog/?p=547#comment-457 Anastasiya, this is so simple and down to earth. Feels very real. I love it! Kye Anastasiya, this is so simple and down to earth. Feels very real. I love it!

Kye

]]> By: Steven Aitchison http://balanceinme.com/balanced-lifestyle/step-out-of-your-shell-practical-tips-to-become-a-better-conversationalist/comment-page-1/#comment-456 Steven Aitchison Thu, 17 Sep 2009 05:22:48 +0000 http://www.balanceinme.com/blog/?p=547#comment-456 Anastasiya this hit a chord with me as I am definitiely an introvert however the way you describe it has something to do with confidence. I would say being introverted can be both a confidence issue and also a lifestyle choice. I choose to be introverted however can get on well with anyone and have no issues talking to strangers etc. I think what you describe above is a confidence issue rather than a converstional issue. I really enjoyed this post and it made me think about how the net can help people in different ways. Anastasiya this hit a chord with me as I am definitiely an introvert however the way you describe it has something to do with confidence. I would say being introverted can be both a confidence issue and also a lifestyle choice. I choose to be introverted however can get on well with anyone and have no issues talking to strangers etc. I think what you describe above is a confidence issue rather than a converstional issue.

I really enjoyed this post and it made me think about how the net can help people in different ways.

]]> By: david hua http://balanceinme.com/balanced-lifestyle/step-out-of-your-shell-practical-tips-to-become-a-better-conversationalist/comment-page-1/#comment-455 david hua Thu, 17 Sep 2009 03:21:47 +0000 http://www.balanceinme.com/blog/?p=547#comment-455 Thanks, This is really great advice. However, I do worry that more and more people are losing the ability to communicate with each other BECAUSE we have become so reliant on communication through the internet, which is a million times easier. We have become to used to having the luxuries you speak of online, that it becomes a challenge to do so in person. Just a thought. Anyway, I'm hua, the director of blogger relations at Wellsphere.com, I have really enjoyed reading this blog and I would like to invite you to join our health blogger network which is now comprised of over 2,600 of the web's best health writers and their content is read by over 6 million visitors a month at Wellsphere.com. For more information about joining, please visit http://www.wellsphere.com/health-blogger or email me at hua [at] wellsphere [dot] com. Best, Hua Director of Blogger Networks twitter.com/wellsphere Thanks, This is really great advice. However, I do worry that more and more people are losing the ability to communicate with each other BECAUSE we have become so reliant on communication through the internet, which is a million times easier. We have become to used to having the luxuries you speak of online, that it becomes a challenge to do so in person. Just a thought. Anyway, I’m hua, the director of blogger relations at Wellsphere.com, I have really enjoyed reading this blog and I would like to invite you to join our health blogger network which is now comprised of over 2,600 of the web’s best health writers and their content is read by over 6 million visitors a month at Wellsphere.com. For more information about joining, please visit http://www.wellsphere.com/health-blogger or email me at hua [at] wellsphere [dot] com.

Best,
Hua
Director of Blogger Networks
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]]> By: Patrick http://balanceinme.com/balanced-lifestyle/step-out-of-your-shell-practical-tips-to-become-a-better-conversationalist/comment-page-1/#comment-452 Patrick Wed, 16 Sep 2009 20:44:59 +0000 http://www.balanceinme.com/blog/?p=547#comment-452 Anastasiya, it was a revelation for my own growth in personal communication, when I decided to drop the fear of not knowing what to say and instill some curiosity within me. I had the privilege to get to know many people on- and offline, and what helped me the most to get into deep conversations with total strangers within minutes (even in online-forums people often told me that they never had such an intense communication in their life), is the fact, that I am not asking myself and them the standard questions. All I am interested in, when I meet new people, is what FASCINATES THEM. What is their passion? People love to talk about their passion. At first they are not used to it, but they love it. Then I just listen for some minutes and ask myself, what is fascinating for me about what they told me. From then on, the rest of the communication is no problem anymore. Exchange your passions - and strangers can become good friends within hours. Anastasiya, it was a revelation for my own growth in personal communication, when I decided to drop the fear of not knowing what to say and instill some curiosity within me.

I had the privilege to get to know many people on- and offline, and what helped me the most to get into deep conversations with total strangers within minutes (even in online-forums people often told me that they never had such an intense communication in their life), is the fact, that I am not asking myself and them the standard questions. All I am interested in, when I meet new people, is what FASCINATES THEM. What is their passion? People love to talk about their passion. At first they are not used to it, but they love it.

Then I just listen for some minutes and ask myself, what is fascinating for me about what they told me.

From then on, the rest of the communication is no problem anymore.
Exchange your passions – and strangers can become good friends within hours.

]]> By: Anastasiya http://balanceinme.com/balanced-lifestyle/step-out-of-your-shell-practical-tips-to-become-a-better-conversationalist/comment-page-1/#comment-451 Anastasiya Wed, 16 Sep 2009 02:01:00 +0000 http://www.balanceinme.com/blog/?p=547#comment-451 @Justin I agree that introverts are people who look inside of themselves more than outside. However, it's very typical for an introvert to be not interested in the society, to form this shell around him/her that won't let anybody in. Sometimes this type of character forms fears and causes a lot of problems in communication. @Jai Kai Thanks for sharing this post, I really appreciate it. Regarding the book, I really can't recommend you anything. There is a ton of books on this subject nowadays but most of them still use Carnegie's principles. I haven't met a book that would be more helpful than How to Win Friends and Influence People. If anybody else knows of any good books on this subject, please feel free to share in the comments. @Justin
I agree that introverts are people who look inside of themselves more than outside. However, it’s very typical for an introvert to be not interested in the society, to form this shell around him/her that won’t let anybody in. Sometimes this type of character forms fears and causes a lot of problems in communication.
@Jai Kai
Thanks for sharing this post, I really appreciate it. Regarding the book, I really can’t recommend you anything. There is a ton of books on this subject nowadays but most of them still use Carnegie’s principles. I haven’t met a book that would be more helpful than How to Win Friends and Influence People. If anybody else knows of any good books on this subject, please feel free to share in the comments.

]]> By: Jai Kai - SharingSuccess.tv http://balanceinme.com/balanced-lifestyle/step-out-of-your-shell-practical-tips-to-become-a-better-conversationalist/comment-page-1/#comment-450 Jai Kai - SharingSuccess.tv Tue, 15 Sep 2009 14:46:50 +0000 http://www.balanceinme.com/blog/?p=547#comment-450 Excellent Tips - I am going to tweet this and pass it on to friends who are not use to communicating in these ways. I hope they will start, but many people are old school. Also, Anastasiya what book would you recommend in place of Dale Carngie's - How to win friends and influence people? Excellent Tips – I am going to tweet this and pass it on to friends who are not use to communicating in these ways. I hope they will start, but many people are old school.

Also, Anastasiya what book would you recommend in place of Dale Carngie’s – How to win friends and influence people?

]]> By: Justin-AlittleBetter.net http://balanceinme.com/balanced-lifestyle/step-out-of-your-shell-practical-tips-to-become-a-better-conversationalist/comment-page-1/#comment-449 Justin-AlittleBetter.net Tue, 15 Sep 2009 10:47:56 +0000 http://www.balanceinme.com/blog/?p=547#comment-449 An online guide to stepping out of your shell. I like it. Though I would like to clarify one point. I am also an introvert, this isn't just a preference for people who are afraid. Introversion refers to how we recharge. We need time to ourselves to reflect, to let go, and to really continue to give people our best. Love the online tips by the way. An online guide to stepping out of your shell. I like it. Though I would like to clarify one point.
I am also an introvert, this isn’t just a preference for people who are afraid. Introversion refers to how we recharge. We need time to ourselves to reflect, to let go, and to really continue to give people our best.
Love the online tips by the way.

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